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Yes, you are assessed in your life by your deeds, not by words. However, how you can perform the best in your life constantly and consistently? The answers can be varied. But for me, I would like to call as Cry for Performance is the secret for an optimal performance every time.
What will be your immediate reaction when you hear the phrase Cry for Performance? I’m curious to know. So please, stop everything you are doing right now (if so) and take some moments to ponder on the phrase, Cry for Performance…!
What’s it? If you feel so, you can also jot down your answer(s), if any, on a sheet of paper or in your gadget. Keep them with you now. At the end of this reading, you can put all them as your comments to this article, if you wish to do. Definitely, I would be grateful to you!
Backdrop: I heard this phrase ever in my life from the renowned sales-skills trainer and my friend, Mr. Shamim Rafeek, of Kochi, Kerala during the flagship program of the Kouchouseph Chittilappilly Foundation’s (KCF) Entrepreneur development program as Vijayee Bhava which is solely designed for the upcoming businessmen in this part of the country. That was in 2014. (Still, he has been serving as the master brain behind the ongoing excellent training program for new batches, congrats, however, I am not sure whether he is using this phrase Cry for Performance thereafter)
Now, let’s come to the point, in reality I too know that I can not give you a one set defined answer right away what Cry for Performance is. Let me take you into a real-life situation.
At the very moment of the birth of a baby, all others there are waiting for an expected performance from him or her for the very instant. What’s it? The newborn has to cry at once! That cry must also be a loud cry as well, right? Ya, it is through that infant cry we could confirm that the baby is normal and healthy. Shortly after the baby’s birth, whether it’s a normal birth or a c-section, the baby will be evaluated for its ability to adapt and transition normally to life in this world through this loud cry. The baby should begin crying within the first 30 seconds to one minute of life.
The reasons behind the cry are not in my concern right now. But the newborn cry is very much important for me to proceed with my thoughts. Let’s think about other possible performances for the same moment. The baby’s feeble cry with low tone may cause some doubts about his or her normalcy which demand more care and attention towards the baby at once. Think about another strange moment, if the baby couldn’t cry at all, the whole scene will be changed at once. Everybody in that room will be under the shuddering fear or silent at once. Right?
It was an old but familiar practice by the doctor or the experienced nurse or elders would hold upright the baby by its feet in mid-air and spanking the baby’s bare butt where the flesh is more and tender in order to get the baby to cry.
Nowadays due to the advancements in neonatal studies, this procedure is no longer advisable because as of it is the spanking is not necessary. Instead of such aggressive stimulations, today’s doctor knows is not necessary, that it could potentially harm the baby. There are now more scientific and practical measures of initial evaluation like Apgar Scoring System to determine if additional measures of resuscitation are necessary. The five-minute Apgar Score is generally used to evaluate how effective any resuscitative efforts were.
But the point is the baby has to cry loud otherwise it invites more care and even serious external interventions. The cry must come automatically from within and thereby the infant is accepted as normal and healthy. Whereas, if it is stimulated by outside as it is created in the olden days or today’s sophisticated measures that clearly signals some abnormality and which demands extra care and efforts immediately.
To me, this sort of performance due to the inner impulse from a human ends only at his or her deathbed. In other words, until the end of his or her life, there will be an expected performance must happen from everyone and that should happen from the inner stimulus not from outer compulsions. So as a human there will be an expected performance always in everyone’s life, right?. If that happens automatically or normally there would not be a chance for an external intervention. Or the practice of beating by others or applying any form of such external forces for generating the expected performance from a person would create definite pain to the body or the mind mostly.
For instance, as of a familiar domestic practice, or precisely in this part of the country, the majority of our school students even of the plus 2 classes have been well and repeatedly prompted or forced by their parents as well as teachers to do their studies properly. If it is needed for the boy or girl of lower class we can justify that interference by the parents to some extent. This force of compulsion would certainly make the student very negative and a clear chance to get irritated easily toward the expected performance of that age, to study. As we all know the prerequisite of learning is interest. If the student is forced by the elders around him or her to engage in the expected performance of study in this way would snatch the element of interest.
Why do their parents have a thought to stop from such forcings? Why do not they make their children understand study is the expected performance as of their age, health, and level of knowledge? It is as simple as like this whenever these children were forced to sit and study they would hate the entire process of learning. They would certainly become reluctant to sit and study. This would cause a lot of troubles in the family atmosphere too. On the other hand, if they can do it by their own inner urge to engage in their expected performance, ie., to study, it is sure that they are definitely going to enjoy every moment of the education process. Or in nutshell, they need to perform according to the cry for performance within, not from the force for such a performance from outside.
This would be applicable to an adult too. If he or she is carrying out the inevitable, entrusted or expected performances in the life due to the pure inner consciousness then life is more rewarding and enriching. As a human, if I can dance (act) as per the inner tune I am going to enjoy every bit of my life otherwise I will get easily irritated and disinterested in what we are going to do. Hence, Cry for performance is the expected performance(s) from every human being as of the age, health, wealth and time and that should also take place in accordance with the inner call for performing the same. That only is going to give us undaunted self-esteem and unending satisfaction or in its simple terms ‘pleasure’. When it has not happened, naturally you will work under pressure, right? Is it convincing my friend? The result of your work is always corresponding to the element of pleasure you are experiencing during the performance.